As I sit down to write this, I am reminded of the river.
Life is like a river, we flow in a certain direction following the curves and bends of the valleys. And if it wasn’t for all the little things that’s happened in the past, I wouldn’t be where I am today. At times, allowing ourselves to be swept away is a good thing. It’s definitely brought me to places beyond my imagination. Beyond what I ever thought possible Subhanallah.
But there are times when we start losing touch of ourselves. We feel lost, unfocused and scattered. We feel burdened by the decisions and actions that doesn’t feel quite right.
These have definitely been on my mind of late.
And at times like these, it is as if the river is forcing us to flow in a direction we don’t want to take.
And it is at times like these that calls for us to make our stand firm and fight those currents. It’s so easy to drown or let go of the fight and just follow the flow; Let others or our own expectations of who we are, dictate our direction, our life.
So I’m taking some time off this Ramadan, to get to know myself via muhasabah and self-introspection.
Importance of Muhasabah
Allah has created us uniquely. Each and every one of us has vast potential to contribute to the world in our very own unique way. Our job is to unlock that potential by learning our uniqueness: to discover our true selves.
Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.
Muhasabah is the doorway to discover our inner self, our inner state, our fitrah (natural depositions), our true intentions and the depth of our spiritual self. We become more aware of our acts and thoughts and THIS is the key to self-mastery.
Re-learning your true self
Through this discovery, we learn to distinguish what is constructive and what is destructive for our fitrah. We learn our strengths and weaknesses. And by accepting who we truly are, only then we can focus on the real essential values that are important to our core and develop character and attitude that will encourage good actions.
Only then are we able to develop goals in life which will encourage positive growth that resonate with our souls instead of goals which breaks us.
When we start to pay attention to our inner self, we are able to measure our present state and prepare ourselves for the future.
By being in a constant state of self-awareness, by being in touch with ourselves – we can learn from our past, our successes, our failures, stumbles and falls. We will learn how we respond to circumstances. And we will learn and come to realise how truly dependent we are on Allah Subhanaahu wa ta’aalawa and how Allah is really the best of Planners.
And from here, we may learn to walk more confidently and also humbly into the future.
Ramadan is indeed, a good reminder for us to stand firm and focus on our inner needs and our own spiritual growth, MashaAllah.
Ameen Ya Rabbal Alameen.